Grandparental Alienation
- Sonny's Dad
- Mar 21, 2023
- 2 min read
Updated: Nov 19, 2024
I often wonder if Margaret & Ken can ever imagine a day without Sonny.
A day when they have to ask to see him.
A day when they have to wait long periods of time before they see him.
A life without Sonny.
This is the sentence that they passed down to Sonny's paternal grandparents. This was the type of collateral damage that erupted in their attempt to destroy my relationship with him,
Grandparent alienation is a type of abuse, it's effectively a mistreatment of other human beings. The also suffer from an ambiguous grief due to the loss of their living grandchild.
Whilst Margaret & Ken may feel that I was a legitimate target, what were my parents guilty of - being my parents?
When Grandparents get to the age that my parents are they look forward to having grandchildren, they offer the new catalyst for life and uplift. As they get older and their children grow up their grandchildren are the next phase of their life, it's what they look too. They had all that took away from them with Sonny.
At the time of Sarah's pregnancy one thing blazingly obvious, certainly with Margaret, was that irrespective of whatever Sarah did or said, she would support her without ever understanding the consequence.
However, to the contrary, she expected my parents to vilify and isolate me from the family because I could no longer be in a relationship with Sarah.
The last thing my parents wanted was the situation as it was but they understood my decision and reasons. At the time they were disappointed that I had come to the decision I had but in a short space of time, as events unfolded, they realised why I had.
Grandparental alienation is a traumatizing as parental alienation. My parents have lost years and years of Sonny's life. The are not young people, there is every chance that they will never see Sonny again, all because of a vindictive vendetta against me.
Only yesterday, they were both watching old videos of Sonny. They were both in tears as they watched him on television opening his Christmas presents, a rare Christmas day that we were granted by Sarah.
Sonny would shout 'look Grandad, look Nana' as he tore off the wrapping paper of his present and dived straight into the next one.
They did everyting possible that a Nana & Grandad could have possibly done for a Grandson that they saw a couple of days a month - they are good people and they did not deserve to be treated in such a way.
If Margaret and Ken had any human decency about them they should have been in touch at the outset and made it clear that irrespective of what happens with Sarah and I they'd make sure that my parents weren't caught in the cross fire.
They were equally as responsible for the despicable and heinous act of destroying Sonny's relationship with his paternal grandparents - for that they should be ashamed of themselves.
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