Just Imagine
- Sonny's Dad
- Apr 4, 2023
- 4 min read
Updated: Oct 5, 2023
So, I often wonder about the reality of the situation Sarah and Margaret harvested. The manipulation of a child, the leverage of lazy incompetent family courts, the upset, the trauma - parental alienation.
Have they ever imagined......
This post dates back to the early 70's and involves my uncle. At the time he was married to his then wife and everything was normal, relationship was fine and they were expecting their first child together.
They had a little baby girl (my cousin) and initially everything in the family was perfect. Unfortunately over the followings years the relationship between them began to wear, it was just one of the things, and they decided to go their separate ways. Their was no third parties involved it was simply a case of the relationship burning out.
Almost immediately, after what began as shared parenting and custody of my cousin failed, his ex wife began to dictate terms on how and when he would be able to see his daughter.
His ex wife, fueled by her mother, would demand that he had his daughter at times that were virtually impossible for him to fill due to work. No matter how hard he tried to calm the situation so that his ex wife would be more workable to at least get to a point where they could have a constructive understanding moving forward to ensure my cousin got to see her Dad on a regular basis, it was not to be. She was spurred by the power and control of dictating to him his life with his daughter and he was left with no alternative than to seek the courts help in trying to help him as it was become a clear cut case of parental alienation.
He went to court and had reasonable success in that his ex wife was forced to allow his daughter to see him. It was a battle for him though, she was always looking for an excuse not to honour the arrangement and tried her best to manipulate his relationship with his daughter whether that be by refusing contact, re arranging contact, or even moving homes further away from where he was.
In the long term did it effect his relationship with his daughter - of course, what parent and child's relationship doesn't get impacted by adults constantly looking to sabotage it.
Move forward to 2023 - my uncle is no longer here, he passed a couple of years ago. He remarried and had 2 other children, of which he was extremely close with and remained with his late wife until he passed. He was a nice man and a good Dad. His older daughter, who I've spoke to many times about her relationship with her Dad, is also just like her Dad. Looks like him, has the same nature as him and I can tell that there was a damage to her from the parental alienation she was exposed to. In that, she knows what her Mum did. She knows that her Dad was just like her and she was made to feel that her Dad wasn't really part of her life, that's what she began to understand that it was normal. It was normal that she didn't see her Dad and it's left a hole for her. It left an unresolve hole that she could never bring herself to openly talk about it with him because she already knew that her Mum was the instigator of having her Dad taken away from her.
I think she preferred to privately harbor the fact that her Mum systematically damaged her relationship with her Dad rather than have her Dad and his family give her the back ground as to what happened and this then became and open issue for her and her Mum. I just don't think she ever wanted to have to address it that way. I can tell though, even though she didn't get to see her Dad as much as she should have done there is very close connection with him. The way she talks abut him, how proud she was of him jut for being her Dad, she really does idolise him to this day.
So, why do I tell this story - well that all happened over 50 years ago, Sonny's story of parental alienation started in 2004 and today parental alienation is alive today as it was all those years ago.
So, Just Imagine -
Sonny meets a girl, who he's happy with,
Then over time - the relationship breaks down,
His girlfriend falls pregnant,
The baby arrives,
Immediately she starts to make Sonny's life difficult,
They separate,
She stops Sonny seeing his child, which her parents support and encouragement,
She stop's Sarah seeing her grandchild, which her parents support and encouragement,
She stops Margaret seeing her great grandchild, which her parents support and encouragement
Sonny is left with no option but to seek solution through the courts,
He ex girlfriend fights.........hard.........to ensure the courts support her in the alienation of his child - supported by her parents,
And on, and on and on and on it goes
Does this sound familiar Sarah & Margaret?
Things haven't changed, what you did to me and my family could easily happen to Sonny by people like you.....Just Imagine
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